I wrote this posting yesterday night at 3 AM. The day had been full of new lessons and ideas, so this posting is not so much about IC, but about my personal lessons from here. Enjoy!
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Do you care what happens in the world? Do you believe you can do something about it? Do you dare to take responsiblity over what is happening in the society, in your community, among your social network, your family?
There are so many people who don’t dare. They are afraid to believe, because there is such a social pressure to be average, be passive, not to stand out. Saying: „I believe I can do something about it and I care!” requires a lot of courage. By standing out you always disturb people around you, because you remind them their own potential which they never use. You remind them that they have given up the opportunities to live a much more fulfilling life. It feels uncomfortable if someone shows with an example that actually no-one is a victim of circumstances and you can always choose your attitude.
I believe really good people will always find resistance.
Yesterday PAI from 86-87 Martin Bean, who is now the 3rd man in Microsoft corporation (http://www.league.org/2006cit/bios/bean.html) shared his story in AIESEC. To be honest I was almost moved to tears and still get thrills when I think back about the moment in plenary. It wasn’t necessarily about what he said, though it was extremly inspiring to hear him sharing what the leadership experience in AIESEC really taught him and what were the learnings he got out of it. But even more moving was to see a person who dares to stand out, be the one who cares about what is happening, who has a passion to change things, who really understands the personal responsibility each of us has and who doesn’t find some fake comfort from the thought: „Anyway I can’t change much and the bad things continue to happen with or without my effort to change something.”
Why should a person care anyway?
I believe that in the end it’s all about your personal happiness. Everyone wants to be happy, so everyone is looking for means to do it. We all have an inner need to be happy and the happiness comes through meaning. We all want to have a meaning in our life, so we are attaching it to something - have more money, have a beautiful girlfriend, nice clothes, impressive career etc. Quite often they happen to be things that in the end doesn’t give us the meaning we are looking for and make us feel even more empty and disappointed.
Real meaning comes through serving.
How do you feel when you have made someone elses day? Remember the feeling if someone is really grateful for you because you said the right words on the right time or did something else helpful for the other person. Do you know the great feeling if you have felt really useful and you know that without your unique contribution in this very moment nothing would have happened?
Now compare it to the feeling you get from getting compliment because you look good or the inner satisfaction you get from the idea that soon you will have a payday and your salary will arrive. It’s also great, right?
But what does feel better – the admiration because you are a good speaker or someone gratitude for changing the course of someones life because of your authentic and sincere words? What does feel better – having a lot of friends and being popular or sensing that the conversation you just had with another person was something so meaningful and needed for she, that she almost started to cry?
You have a million of opportunities to live a meaningful life, if you only care.
So in the end we should just care about what is happening around us, because it makes us happy. I mean authentically happy, happy in the truesest sense, which is not determined about the conditions and events happening to you.
Living a life with a meaning, finding your own true inner strenght and path you should walk requires belief and courage. I can’t express quite clear enough how happy I am I once made a choice to join AIESEC, to face all the challenges I have had here, to be forced to discover my own potential I had no idea about, to be surrouned by people who dare to believe and have a courage to stand out.